Dating in the modern world
To my mind, I was never that pitiful caricature of a desperate woman, waiting by the telephone for him to call; we texted, Facebooked or emailed every day. Anna Williams, a 29-year-old writer, met her boyfriend on Twitter.‘I’ve met a few guys that way – it’s much easier to take a risk because you can pass it off as banter if you get rejected. We started messaging each other and, eventually, I invited him to a night out I was already going to.’ For Anna, the constant tweeting and messaging took the stress out of the first date.‘I think he was a little tired.’ Such disappointment shouldn’t come as a surprise, says Emma Weighill-Baskerville, a psychotherapist and relationship specialist.‘The person may not fulfil the fantasy created through literary communication alone – this is only one piece of an individual.We were having a drink in the pub when I referred to him, to his face, as my boyfriend. In retrospect, it was clear that our ‘relationship’ was no such thing, that he wasn’t willing to give me what I wanted and deserved.
You could be in for a shock when your 6ft 5in, 30-something date, with Mediterranean looks turns out to be 5ft 4in with a pot belly and acne. There’s no denying it, the world of dating is a daunting one.Others will wing a lustful glance, hoping to be noticed.Or perhaps you will visit The Fit Finder, a new student Twitter-based website. You're sipping your latte in a local café and spot a possible mate.Occasionally, I’ll see someone once or twice, then decide they’re not for me.But instead of politely disappearing off the edge of the earth and never being seen again as in the Olde Days (1996), these men are now my Facebook friends.